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Can God Treat Your Loneliness?

Remain in me, and I will remain in you.

No branch can bear fruit by itself:

it must remain in the vine.

Neither can you bear fruit unless you remain in me.

John 15: 4 NIV


Does the hustle of the world leave you feeling alone? We all feel lonely at times but if you aren’t connecting with those around you, it leaves you feeling like your missing something. It leaves you questioning who you are. But this verse tells us we don’t have to experience loneliness as long as we lean into God.

We are all different and have our own beliefs, our own experiences in life, and our own problems. Some of us like to share everything while others are private. You may be an introvert, and you find yourself thinking you’re different. You wonder why. But God makes us unique, and we aren’t meant to be a cookie cutter species.

We are allowed to be ourselves and different as long as we are kind to others. Sometimes we feel we are not good people when we don’t want to join in. It can leave a bad taste in our mouth. A sick feeling in our guts. Don’t let others push you into a box when you were meant to be a circle.

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When we are younger, we yearn to belong, and it’s important to us. Yet since we have our own DNA makeup, there are times we feel we will never belong. I have good news! As we age we change and it’s not as important to be part of a group. You will be satisfied to belong to a few selected people who get you.

Questions to ask yourself to cure Loneliness:

Ask yourself why you want to belong to this particular group of people? Why is it so important to fit in? Really dig deep for these answers. You may just decide that it isn’t that important. That it’s more because it’s expected of you. Or you’re afraid if you don’t, you will be talked about.

Ask yourself what is holding you back from belonging. You might be the one standing in your own way because deep down you don’t want to hang out with anyone. Maybe God is telling you not to worry about it. That he will provide exactly who and what you need if you turn to him.

Or maybe you are running from yourself because you don’t like who you are. But you have to accept yourself before you can develop deep relationships with others. We are responsible for ourselves. No one else. It’s good to have a good friend but is superficial friends what you are really looking for? Or is it you just don’t like to be singled out.

It is hard not to fit in. But not everyone will like us. Except for  God. He died for our love. No one will love us as much as He does. All we have to do is let him live within us. He has our life all planned out. We don’t even have to try to figure it out. We just have to ask him to lead us, and he will lead us to the right people at the right time to love and share our life with. And he will never leave our side.

I can tell you I have these times daily. I’m an introvert that has struggled with not belonging all my life. Until I started to lean into God and ask for His help.

I loved to hear from you if there was a time when you didn’t fit in and felt awkward until you leaned into God?


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