When you quit on yourself, do you feel the domino effect? Do you go down a rabbit hole of feeling bad and beating yourself up?
Why do we quit? Especially on ourselves?
When we make a goal to do something, we go through a process in our brain. We’ve dreamed about it, which leads to excitement. And we tell ourselves we’re going to follow through this time.
But at some point, we’ll fail. If we’re talking about writing a book, we may be unable to get our words in. We skipped a day, which run into a week. Then we quit.
What Happens When You Quit
If you quit on your dream, you quit on yourself. At first, it might feel right to you, and you’ll be relieved. Because your brain doesn’t like change and getting a writing routine down, it will require change. You’ll have to be strong and resist the urge to binge-watch Netflix.
But eventually, your heart is going to be called to it again. And you’ll have to go through the discomfort of starting up again.
It’s easier to keep going. To pick yourself up and do it again right away.
The Domino Effect
If you keep running away from your dreams, you’re going to feel half alive. The negativity will eat you alive. Your ego may have won, but it still won’t be happy. And wallowing in it, blaming your life circumstances also will not give you a full life.
Let’s face it. We are on this earth to live it, and not let life live us. If we believe we have no control over having it all, then we don’t.
This journey is endless. We are here to grow. You know it’s the journey that gives you the most joy. And if you quit on your dreams, it’ll be so much easier to quit on everything you desire.
How To Stop From Quitting On Your Writing Dream
The best way to stop from fizzling out on your dream is to get right back to it. Your mind is going to try and talk you out of it. It’s going to say that you have no idea how to write. And that you suck at it. Side note here: I don’t think it’ll ever stop telling you that you suck. Don’t let that stop you.
Revisit why you wanted to write in the first place. You didn’t decide on a whim that you wanted to pursue writing. Becoming an author is hard work. And if you believe that it’s not, then maybe your desire to be a writer isn’t strong enough.
Write your why statement in big, bold letters where you can see it. Your statement will give you a daily reminder and help you to stick to it.
Develop A Routine
Routine is key. Do you have a set time that you write? Make sure that you sit down to write at this time. Maybe you get a cup of coffee before you start to write. Or perhaps it will work better after you’ve put the children to bed.
I find that I write best after I have done my duties and my day job is in the books. But your creative brain may not work as well at the end of the day. Maybe you’ll have to get up an hour earlier and write then.
Try to do your routine for thirty days when you make it through that give it another thirty days. It’ll cement your routine in and make it a bit easier to do. But don’t be fooled. There will still be days that you won’t want to do it.
Reward yourself at the end of getting your words in. Watch the show on Netflix afterward. The reward will call you to the computer and give you the drive to do the work.
Domino Effect Works Both Ways
If you are diligent and you’ve established that routine, eventually it’ll be more second nature to you. The domino effect will be the opposite, and you’ll be more apt to move toward success and not quit.
You accomplish your daily writing; you’ll be able also to achieve other hard things. Satisfaction is a beautiful antidote to use to move past the fear. Each time you conquer fear, you’ll be less frozen to move forward.
Let’s be honest. Becoming a writer is more than just writing the book. You have to edit and then promote it. These stages bring their own demons into play. It’s not easy to talk about your work and get other people interested in it.
When you edit, you’ll either cringe or see you’re not half bad at creating stories.
Don’t let your inner critic cut you down too much. There will be parts of the book that’ll need a significant overhaul. But there will also be parts that you’re going to read and puff up like a peacock. Some days you’ll be able to handle your negative mind better than others.
The important thing is to keep at it every day. Take a page or two and polish them up. But don’t polish so much that you take your voice out of the story. You’ll be sending it to beta readers and editors anyways, so let them do their jobs with fresh eyes. I’ll help that they won’t be so invested in the story too.
The Last Part That May Make You Want To Quit
Self-promotion is a different kind of mind-bender. Not many people enjoy talking about themselves. But that is what you’re going to have to do. You may shrink from it and hope that your readers will find you. Not very likely. You’ll need to get better at praising your work.
Quitting is easy, but it should not be an option in your writing. It takes time to write a book unless you are a prolific writer. Most of us aren’t. I write slow, but I know I can fit in my 1000 words a day, and knowing that I’ll have a finished book in two months keeps me going. It’s another example of the domino effect.
Will it be enough to keep you going? Will you be able to commit to 1000 words a day? Drop a comment below and let me know, and I’ll support you. And be sure to like and subscribe to my email list to get notified of my weekly supportive blogs.