Have you had a strong desire to change your circumstances? Do you want to change and be a better version of yourself but you’re stuck?
I feel you. And you are not alone.
As humans, we are wired to want more but we are taught that we should be happy with where we are.
I have to ask why? Why is it that we are not to want more money, a bigger house, or a life that excites us? And I have not come up with a good enough reason. You see, we were born to explore life. It’s not a cookiecutter existence. I don’t have the same cells like you. And yours are different from your siblings. So why do we have to have the same life?
You were meant to discover your desires and go for it.
Part Of The Herd
I was at a meeting where a police officer came in to instruct us how to react if there was a shoot out. It’s a sad day when we have to have these lessons. But it was eye-opening.
He showed actual footage of some of the shootings I have only seen on the news. And he talked about how our brain operates. When we hear the first pops of a gun being fired, we will naturally downplay it to being something else. Not gunfire because we don’t want to face the danger.
But once it registers in our subconscious, we panic. We don’t know where to go or what to do. And we’re told not to run but hide. That is a lie. He taught us that we should run and even if the crowd goes one way, if you know a better way, be the leader and direct people safely to that exit.
We are prone to be part of the herd instead of the crowd.
Be The Leader
Even it’s hard or you don’t see a way, be the leader. You’re the leader of how you react and how you go about in life. If you don’t want to be part of the crowd, don’t. I know it’s not that simple but in a way it is.
You don’t have to fit in. By being different and more in tune with yourself, you’ll be happier. And it doesn’t have to mean you’re alone in life. All it means is that you will attract the kind of people that mesh with you.
If you’re working hard to fit in, you’ll attract the exact kind of people that you don’t want to be around in the first place. And your life will be a waste every day.
Narrow Down On You
As we mold ourselves to be what our parents wanted, or our friends, or even our significant other, we lose sight of what we want. And after 57 years of living that way, I can tell you, that’s not a good life.
Take some time to figure out what you want. I like to ask myself if there no consequences and you were destined to have what you wanted, what would it be?
Ask yourself that. And don’t think about it. Take the first thing that comes to mind. Because if you ponder on it, your subconscious will take over and it’ll send you into the safe route.
Handle Your Circumstances
You are not in charge of your circumstances. You can’t control the weather nor can you control the price of gas. But you are in charge of how you respond to it. If you complain that it’s raining again, you’re missing out on happiness. Unless of course, you love that kind of weather.
Why waste time over things that you can’t control. Don’t join in on those conversations with others. Look for something you can be happy about. Maybe it’s really dry out and you need the rain for your flowers.
Even if you have to work hard to get the positivity out of it, do it. Use it to discover your desires you truly want.
Practice changing your mood by changing your thoughts.
Life Is About Enjoyment And To Discover Your Desiers
This life that you’ve been gifted is not supposed to be miserable. Its full of lessons to learn and one of those lessons is to have fun.
What is it that you enjoy? Look for that. Do that. If you’re in a hard season, find the lesson in it. Let it make you grow. I know these lessons are hard. And some of them feel unfair, but the sooner you can find the lesson and some sort of joy, the other side of happiness will come.
But if you are in a hard lesson and you need a little grace, take it. However, sitting in it for months and months, will not change it. Learn from it and move on.
The Lesson Of Grief
I know how hard grief can be. I lost my mother and it took at least a year to not feel the enormous loss of her. And sitting in it was painful. But I had to move on because the grief wasn’t going to bring her back to me. The remembrance of her was.
Let yourself have a few good days during that grief season. And don’t feel guilty about it. Mourn as you should, but move on too. It’s the next step that will take you into your next season. Trust that there are still good days ahead for you.
Resilience comes with each of those lessons that we pass through. With each new level, we discover our desires and we move toward them. There is another new lesson at each level that will pop up. Don’t live in the past and don’t live a life you weren’t meant to live. Seek out your desires and reach for them.
How about you? Do you need a little bit of a push to move into the season of life you want to be in? Drop a comment below and let me know how you need support so we can support each other.