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Overthinker? Here’s How To Overcome It

Being an overthinker can paralyze you so you never move to make your dreams a reality.
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Do you question everything that you do? Are you wondering if you’re making the right decision or if you should even do it?

That would be called an overthinker.

I myself, overthink all the time. The problem with overthinking is it’s exhausting. Plus, it takes away your motivation. You won’t decide what to do, and more than likely will give in and give up.

Or maybe you’ll talk yourself out of what you want in life.

Racing Thoughts & An Overthinker

When I did my fiction writing, I decided for some reason that I needed a pen name. This pen name would protect me because I didn’t have to be me. I could be someone else. Plus, my father was very religious, and I was writing romance novels that were a bit steamy. I was sure this was the answer.

So I choose my given name Susan, and for the last name, I used my husband’s name. Susan Jaymes was born.

But it was hard for me to promote myself because I felt fake.

Then there was the fear of how people would receive my writing. To be truthful, it didn’t go over well. But instead of giving it time and letting my writing improve, I got caught up in overthinking. My dream was killed before I gave it a chance to succeed.

I didn’t promote, and when I did, it wasn’t genuine because I held onto that fear and let my overthinking go to a different level. I couldn’t stop it.

How come no one is buying my books?
It must mean I’m a terrible writer.
Why did I think I could write a book that would become a best seller?

I was an overthinker.

When we let overthinking take control, there is no way for us to accomplish our dream because we don’t give it a chance to grow.

When you overthink, you'll ruin your chance to pursue your dreams.
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Give It Time

In the beginning, we will suck at anything that we try. We have to fail before we can succeed. And most of the time, we won’t let ourselves suck until we don’t. It feels uncomfortable, and overthinking can talk us right out of our dreams.

If you stop the overthinking and figure out what went wrong, you’ll be able to move forward.

Perhaps if I had kept writing, my writing would have gotten better. Or if I would have changed genres. Several sources told me that my stories were in the wrong market. Yet I didn’t listen. Why? Because I let my overthinking get me to a place where I didn’t believe it.

Where are you at in your overthinking? Do you let it paralyze you until you give up? Or do you look at things and shut your brain off so you can find a solution?

Because that is the only way, you’ll be able to take your dream to the next level.

The Journey Won’t Be Easy

On whatever path you’re on, the journey will suck at times because you’ll have to accept your failures and move on. And the noise and opinions on the internet are loud. It’ll send your overthinking into overdrive.

Take a step back and look at what you tell yourself. Are you consuming the right information? Because the wrong information can lead you to overthink.

Is the advice you are receiving makes sense? Will it work for you. And be honest. Just because it’s scary doesn’t mean it won’t work.

On the flip side, don’t chase down every suggestion you get. If someone is successful doing one thing, don’t expect that you’ll be just as successful.

Get your overthinking in check to make your life easier.
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How Do You Know?

Sometimes you won’t. There will be times when you have to decide if you’re going to follow your heart or follow what everyone else is doing.

I tried to follow what was working for others, but it came across as fake because I wasn’t real with myself or others.

Helpful Tips To Stop The Overthinking

Decide how bad you want it.

What others are doing doesn’t mean you’ll want to do the same thing.

Get More Than One Idea

To get control so you won’t be an overthinker, make a list. Do a brain dump. Then question each item on that list. Is it outrageous? Does it make sense? Which of them would move you closer to your dream or goal?

Pick one to start. Collect books and videos to consume and get all the info you can. Learn everything you can and test it and then do what works for you best. Then take a few days to evaluate what you did.

Did it work? How well did it work? What do you need to tweak to make it better?

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Come Up With Your System

Once you find out what is working for you, come up with your system. Make it a system that you can always follow. Keep improving the system as you go along.

You don’t always have to do what others are doing. Instead, find what works for you.

Pick Someone That Can Help You

Once you have the first step working for you, find someone you can trust to take it over so you can go to the next level.

Hiring someone is hard because many times, you’ll question if it’s cost-effective. But if this is a big goal like starting a business, you’ll need help. And now that you know how to do it, you can pass it on to someone else and free you up for the next task on your list.

Take your time to find the right person for the job. Better yet find someone that can take the tech side of things away from you. Keep the creative and the tasks that give you the most pleasure.

It’s all about you. Building toward a dream is hard work but extremely rewarding. And you deserve it. So shut down your overthinking and get to work.

Are you an overthinker? What tools do you use to overcome it? Drop a comment below.

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